Holding a grudge on someone?

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Are you holding a grudge? About?

Holding a grudge will eventually consume you by weakening your body mentally. Have you ever tried shouting and feeling as if your heart is pumping fast and you are feeling trouble breathing?I have experienced it. As per cambridge dictionary, Grudge is a strong feeling of anger and dislike for a person who you feel has treated you badly, especially one that lasts for a long time.

Grudges are usually directed toward people, but a person can hold a grudge against a group or an entity like a company or organization. The word grudge is often followed by the word against and whom or what the grudge is directed toward. For example,

Boss doubting you on your capabilities while you are giving your best at job.
A boy has a grudge on his ex for cheating on him with another person.
A student has a grudge on his teacher for punishing him in front of whole class.
Family dispute.

Why is it so easy to hold a grudge?

Being hurt by someone, particularly someone you love and trust, can cause anger, sadness and confusion. If you dwell on hurtful events or situations, grudges filled with resentment and hostility can take root. If you allow negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by bitterness or a sense of injustice.

Some people are naturally more forgiving than others. But even if you tend to hold a grudge, almost anyone can learn to be more forgiving.

What are the effects of holding a grudge?

If you struggle with finding forgiveness, you might:

Bring anger and bitterness into new relationships and experiences.
Become so wrapped up in the wrong that you can’t enjoy the present.
Become depressed, irritable or anxious.
Feel at odds with your spiritual beliefs.
Lose valuable and enriching connections with others.

My answer to today’s prompt is I don’t have grudge on anyone. Whenever someone treats me bad, I do get hurt, but that happens very rarely. I am a guy to whom everyone likes to be friends with me. If I am good to others then no one will try to hurt your. I believe that our life is designed to put us through challenges and to test us on how we respond and ultimately deciding our fate.

For me its just a moment where someone will eventually target you out of nowhere just to check your reaction, but the best reply is to take it jokingly and being silent. If you react, then they’ll get to know your weak point.

I do read books , motivational videos, gym to relieve my stress and I think this makes me more calm and relaxed throughout the day. And last but not least, ‘Time is the best healer’
Aloysius.F

(Some of the contents have been extracted from Mayoclinic.org)

Asia Cup 2023 : India vs Pakistan

How are you feeling right now?

The day has finally come and I am excited to watch to most favorites in the International cricket teams clashing each other at Asia Cup 2023 tournament. So it’s not just about me, but billion fans are happy and excited right now.

India vs Pakistan matches are considered to be one of the best matches in the history of cricket. The matches between India and its neighbour are known for its intensity. It is considered as one of the biggest matches in the world, and is among the most-viewed sport games. The stadiums are packed and it is considered to best business for the sponsors and other partners.

Both sides give their best performance in the matches as it all about the country to represent and the people all over the world. Sometimes things goes out of controls as supporters storm Twitter to release their frustration if their side lose the match. But, the same time, India–Pakistan matches have also offered opportunities as a means to improve relations between the two countries by allowing heads of state to exchange visits and cricket followers from either country to travel to the other to watch the matches.

Not only there are supporters in two nations but there are millions of expats worldwide who travels in middle east countries where India vs Pakistan matches are organized. It was recorded that Tickets for matches in which the two teams play each other at international competitions are in high demand, with over 800,000 applications for tickets made for the 2019 World Cup meeting between the two sides; the television transmission of the match was watched by 273 million viewers.

Past moment before beginning of the match.

Stats between two Teams.

The two sides have played a total of 203 times. Pakistan has won 88 matches compared to India’s 72 victories. In Test matches and ODIs, Pakistan has won more matches than India, although India has won eight of the twelve T20 International between the two sides.

The two nations are currently dominating the ICC ODI rankings as :

No. 1 Batsman in T20I – Suryakumar Yadav.
No.1 Batsman in ODI – Babar Azam.
No. 1 Bowler in Test – Ravichandran Ashwin.
No. 1 All-rounder – Ravindra Jadeja.
No. Test team – India.
No.1 ODI team – Pakistan.
No. 1 T20 team – India.

Lets wait and enjoy today’s match. No matter whoever wins, but it is going to be the best game in history of cricket.

Checking airline tickets !

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What was the last thing you searched for online? Why were you looking for it?

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As an expat living abroad, we all know how excited we are for our vacation to spend time with our loved ones in our country. Even if you are too busy with your work life in a fast paced city (Like Dubai), there comes a moment when the sadness gets you and make you feel low. But, as you sense a vacation approaching soon, you ll never skip a day without checking the airline tickets. Same goes to me (or maybe I am unique).

I have been too much addicted this days. As soon as I open chrome, I get a pop up about ticket prices for the current day. First thing then I check whether the fares are cheaper or not, if the fares are cheaper then more happiness + excitement. Maybe I ll get that satisfaction once I book the tickets. And once I book the tickets, then my excitement will reaching next level daily as day approaches.

Are you the similar kind of person as I am? Do let me know in comments. Meanwhile you can check my blog on Dubai !

Birthday Surprise !

Tell us about the last thing you got excited about.

On my 30th birthday, I was about to get a surprise from my girlfriend. I am in long distance relationship, and to stay away from each other is the biggest challenge a couple could face. It tests the patience between two persons but, if love is pure, then nothing is impossible. The day will come when we ll be finally be together. So here’s what happened…

I have my colleague who is always with me while working, we have a bond like brothers and when I tell about how mu day went I also share about him to my girlfriend most of the times. So she contacted him on social media and told him not to inform me about the birthday surprise. But as we know many of them are so poor in hiding surprises that they let it out anyhow. So one day he told me that I am getting surprise from my gf. He told me not to inform her as she will get disappointed. He gave a hint that she is coming to meet me in Dubai all the way from India.

I was on the moon from that very fine day. I was so happy and excited. I had to plan my schedule for a week on how to manage my work and also spend time her. I also ended up giving my overtime to my other colleague. So that I can be available to take her to amazing places like ‘The Burj Khalifa’, The Dubai mall, Blue waters marina and more. Some times I couldn’t get a sleep because of overthinking of that day where she ll give me a surprise.

But, days before I seriously asked my colleague once again about her arrival time and he chuckled at me saying that she is not coming to Dubai. I was heart broken and sad. The expectations and excitement faded away. He always lie to me about small things but this genuinely hurted me. From his point of view it was just a normal lie and he told me that he wanted to see my excitement and love for her.

Well, maybe I believe its not his mistake as he is into short distance relationship and unaware about what I unless he stepped into my shoes. Going forward on my birthday. It was a G Shock watch that I got as a gift from my girl and I was happy about it. (Not as excited and happy as I was before.) For me her presence is all that matters to me than other materialistic things. ♥️

Building a Sustainable City.

How would you design the city of the future?

Have you ever noticed that the countries who were once dependant on natural resources like crude oil, natural gas are taking a giant step towards sustainable cities and environment? Lets take a one good example of NEOM city in Saudi Arabia

The Line is a linear smart city under construction in Saudi Arabia in Neom, Tabuk Province, which is designed to have no cars, streets or carbon emissions.The 170-kilometre-long city is part of Saudi Vision 2030 project. The city’s plans anticipate a population of 9 million; 25% of Saudi Arabia’s current population of 35.5 million.

The plan is for the city to be powered entirely by renewable energy. It will consist of three layers, one on the surface for pedestrians, one underground for infrastructure, and another underground for transportation.Artificial intelligence will monitor the city and use predictive and data models to find ways to improve daily life for its citizens, with residents being paid for submitting data to The Line.

Also i have read that this will be a place where everything you want to visit will be at the distance of 5-10 mins. Imagine current society of building taking maximum land area and on the other hand, The Line is so compact that it can fit same no. of residents in straight horizon infrastructure.

I would design the city by keeping in mind about…

1. The sustainability.

2. Technology.

3. Entertainment venues at many locations so that the people can move out of their houses.

4. Zero Co2 emissions affecting the environment.

5. Boosting GDP of my country.

6. Tourist attraction hub.

7. Ease of Living.

Best Friends are Diamonds!

We all have a huge circle of friends in our life. Years a ago, there was a time where we often used to get together at a fixed time and at a fixed place to have fun together. Of course, there was no technology to rely on, so mostly it was our daily routine of playing outdoor traditional games and it was way more fun, and not even us, but also our parents used to join us by having a good time. But Alas! those time were precious and today’s generation will no longer experience it because of the digital world that we are living in.

But we do have someone to whom we called friends. Now a days it is easy to make friends on social media. These decade the social media played a mighty role of a person having 2000-3000 friends whom he don’t even know 70% of the people, the other 20 % is are the ones that we call them social media buddies, where there is a current trend going on by reacting to memes and other posts, and the rest 10% are those people whom we genuinely know them.

But are those friends real? I feel that in this current generation to overcome our loneliness and sadness we do spend more time on media, this for sure give us that temporary happiness and often for some are addicted consider it as a detox. And now this current lockdown has taken the people to a whole new level of meeting each other digitally.

Why we need a best friend? For me I too have many friends but I have only have one whom I consider it as a special one, ‘The Best Friend’. We see that people will always be replaced at the particular time, school friends are replacing college friends, college friends with the work colleagues and so on, but those rare ones whom we are still in touch with each other and meet are considered as best ones, another reason so a best friend will always be by your side during the ups and downs in your life, no matter you ll have a girl friend/boy friend but if things doesn’t work between you then you take the help of the bestie, because they are the ones who will listen to you guide you and advise you to take further actions to make your relationship grow stronger. They will by your side at the start of your relationship and will also be at the end to support you during tough times, we consider them as the family.

He/she will always be loyal with you. Sometimes such situation may come due to that she/he have to take such decisions which are not in your favour but he/she must have to tell you by seeing a good opportunity without hurting you. If you are positive you will for sure take it in a good way. Sometimes you need to kill your Ego and Attitude to maintain a relationship and friendship. They are protective of you.Your friend won’t be overprotective because they see you as a possession. Instead, they’ll be protective in a good way. They love you, so they want you to be safe, and they want the best for you.

I do believe that a best friend plays an important role in everyone’s life and most of the happy moments are created with best friends.

Meanwhile you can check my travel blog

Review : Threads app.

It was July 5 when an app called ‘Threads’ was launched. Threads is a social media platform and social networking service owned and operated by Meta Platforms. The app offers users the ability to post and share text, images, and videos, as well as to interact with other users’ posts through replies, reposts, and likes. It requires users to both have an Instagram account and use Threads under the same Instagram handle, The application is available on iOS and Android devices with full functionality. And as you logged in you get a option to follow everyone with the ‘Follow all’ option making it easier for the users to follow the accounts they like.

If you are a long time Twitter user, then this app has a same features as twitters. So a wide audience started mentioning the app as ‘Twitter killer’ as many audience from twitter started experiencing the new app and its features. As per sources, ‘Threads’ gained 100 million users within its first five days, surpassing the record previously set by ChatGPT. Looking at the tweets of the Elon Musk, it seems like the app was copying the same features as that of Twitter. The hype was unreal ! Threads aims to provide users with a similar experience to Twitter.

But as days went by, the daily active users on ‘Threads’ app started declining rapidly. Its daily active users stands at around 13 million—down from 44 million on July 7—and the average daily time spent on the app is four minutes, which is down from its launch day peak of 19 minutes, according to Sensor Tower. It seems like people lost the interest in the app due to lack of features. I was too confused whether to use hashtags in conversations to make it visible to wide audience. As days went by, many of them returned back on Twitter. Elon Musk was shown interest in liking the tweets of the users sharing the stats of declining active users of the rival app on Twitter.

Talking about Twitter, the app has recently introduced many new features where users meeting certain requirements can monetize and earn on this platform making it easier for them to earn. So what do you think? Will Mark Zuckerberg revamp the app with amazing features and giving it a tough challenge for Elon’s Twitter? Lets wait and find out.

Delivering safety message with effective examples.

As a role of a safety officer, I need to ensure that the employees working in my organisation is safe while performing the tasks. Not only the safety of our workers, but to protect the property and environment. But an effective communication can prove useful in delivering the safety message to the employees.

I have noticed in many training academies where their tagline mentions – “Training saves lives.” or “Knowledge saves lives.” It is true that the training which is the 4th control in the Hierarchy of controls mentions that training is necessary to ensure that the employees have been educated about the hazards and risks, and that the control and preventive measures have been discussed with them. Here’s how I deliver the safety message to the new employees during safety induction.

I start by telling them that “Your family is waiting for you at home. Remember! I am sacrificing my quality time working here (abroad) for my family. Let’s assume that I am the only bread earner. Because of me, my family is happy and they are celebrating Christmas, Diwali, Eid, Onam, etc. But suppose I met with an accident and it took my life, imagine how deep pain they will be in…They will grieve forever because of the loss of their son, husband, brother, or any loved one. The company will replace you with a new candidate in the next two months but remember that your family will grieve throughout their life. So always remember that your life is precious. If you are safe then everything will go smoothly.”

Example 2: “Imagine if I lost my hand in an accident and there will come a time when I’ll be meeting my family during my annual leave. Of course, everyone’s family is excited to see their loved ones after a year. My daughter or son is so excited to see me at the airport and once she got a glimpse of me, she runs towards me to hug. And that’s when your heart will be heavy and you’ll be in deep pain knowing that if you don’t have a hand then how will you hug your kid? You’ll remember that if that accident didn’t happen this wouldn’t be the situation. So always make sure that your safety is important at work. Always repeat yourself before starting any work by saying “I will work safely and I will go home safely.” This everyday affirmation will record in your subconscious mind and the chances of accidents will eventually reduce.” Stay safe!

I feel that it is important for these employee to process the message given in the trainings and effectively following it while working. After all safety is priority. A major accident can result in direct and indirect costs to the organisation affecting the reputation. It is a big challenge to maintain the productivity, quality and safety together inside an organization, but a successful organisation who maintains this three has a positive work culture and employees happiness throughout the years.

And as a safety officer, it is my duty to deliver the message in clear and concise manner to the people at all levels of the organisation.

Work safely ! Go home Safely !

My one year experience in Dubai !

It was almost a year when I first came to Dubai to explore job opportunities in safety field. But, let’s rewind a year ago when I face one of the toughest challenges in my life during covid 19. It shocked the whole world and no one had imagined that the virus which is transmissible through air would take millions of lives. Also I had lost a much needed opportunity during covid 19.

Few weeks before the nationwide lockdown, I had got an opportunity for a dream job of a safety officer and for that I returned to my country to complete my visa process and medical. But alas! As one week passed, our prime minister gave us a surprise that a nationwide lockdown has been implemented the whole nation came into stand still.

Unlucky me, as flights w cancelled for more than a year and I was just sitting at home hoping that one day I ll get to fly. The country of Kuwait had a strict rule as flights were still not resumed for almost one and a half year. And after staying at home for almost a year, I got a call from the organization that they cannot wait for more and that they are hiring locally. I was sad and felt as if I had lost a good opportunity in this pandemic.

So, later after few months, I got an opportunity to work for a shutdown project in reputed company in Qatar. But that project lasted for 2 months and I was back home. All thanks to my brother! He gave me an opportunity to come in UAE in search of Job opportunities. It was 29/4/2022. With new hope and search for the job I left my country with all new hopes and blessings from my mom. I was not sad because I was waiting for that one moment where I ll get a chance to find a job.

As soon as I reached Dubai, I was mesmerised looking at the beautiful infrastructure and high-rise buildings there people from different parts of the world visited this beautiful city as it is one of the most attractive tourist place in the world. This city has been way ahead then most of the popular cities in the world.

The tourist place that I got a chance to see is ‘The Burj Khalifa’ in just 60 Dirhams as it was an Eid offer. I got to see the beautiful properties of Emaar and Damac from the 120^th floor. Outside the Burj Khalifa, there is a fountain called ‘The Dubai Fountain’ Illuminated by 6,600 lights and 50 coloured projectors, It is around 900 ft long and shoots water (500 ft) into the air while accompanied by a range of classical to contemporary Arabic and other music. It is the world’s largest choreographed fountain.

On 26 October 2008, Emaar announced that based on results of a naming contest the fountain would be called the Dubai Fountain. The Dubai mall is one of the biggest malls I have ever seen. Trust me you will get tired walking around the mall exploring the shops. It’s like a one stop hub for everything. You can shop, eat, play, watch movies and can do many other activities.

Also, the ‘IBN Battuta Mall’ is one of the attractions shouldn’t meet when exploring Dubai. The mall is divided into different parts and each part is designed with the country’s theme. For example, if you enter into the China court, you ll see the walls designed with dragon arts and a huge vintage ship built which looks almost real. The one is the India court where there is the statue of ancient elephants along with the whisperer. Other court where you ll get to see are Egypt, Tunisia, Persia court etc.

About the public transport you ll find out that there are driverless metros continuously running to and from one destination to other without any delay. The nol card is like a debit card where you need to recharge and scan on the entrance of the station to enter into the platform. This card can also be used in RTA buses and shops too. If you purchase a gold tier card that you ll get to see the amazing view from the front of the metro.

Other tourist places that I visited was ‘The Global Village’.

Global Village welcomes millions of guests every season, making it the park with the 4th largest daily footfall in the world. With a strong belief that the world’s diversity and creativity is a limitless source of excitement and that human connection should have no boundaries, Global Village brings together extraordinary people to create a More Wonderful World for guests from around the globe. This is like a mini globe where there are many different places built like a different country of the world. The place is huge and spread across miles, you will need to take frequent breaks in order to explore the whole village. There is amusement park where families including children can have fun.

Well there’s many things that I want to share and I am going to share my experience in next few blogs. Over all this is the best city I have visited so far. Also by gods grace I am working as a safety office in one of the reputed company in Dubai. What I learnt is that not matter whatever challenges you go through, always put effort in what you are doing and keep praying.

Cheers !

Also do check my previous blog on Safety culture

Practicing Safety Culture in our daily life.

Hello everyone, I hope you too have experienced the same situation as me. Few months before I was working for a shutdown project for Shell GTL, Qatar. It was a Mega Turnaround project with as many as 10k + employees were involved in this Mega turnaround.The project lasted for 90 days and it was a successful completion. Excited I was as it was my very first experience in Oil and Gas Industry as a Fire Watcher.

Why was this memorable experience for me?

In this temporary project I learned the concept of Safety Culture* so deep that it has become my permanent habit wherever I go. So, Safety culture is the set of shared attitudes, beliefs, and practices demonstrated by workers at all levels of the company. So, it’s like positive safety culture connects everyone in the company around a common goal to measurably reduce near misses and incidents. It goes beyond following safety procedures and rules.

This was not only followed on the site but it was followed even in my camp (Laffan Global Village), during Travelling, Transportation, Dining halls, Tents. I was impressed by the strict measures of maintaining the social distancing inside the bus and wearing Seat Belt which is compulsory and you will find it on every Seat. So, let’s take an example, if a visitor or any person forgets to wear a PPE or shows any unsafe behavior, then the group of individuals who are at the location will intervene or convince the person positively by keeping the three Golden words in mind of ‘Comply, Intervene and Respect’ to ensure he is safe by wearing proper PPE. The group or community following the safety measures will definitely change the behaviour or attitude of the person who is non-compliant with the safety measures. Out of the context example is that one rotten mango can spoil the whole mangoes in the basket but let’s make it Vice Versa, A group of people following the Safety rules will definitely change the perception of an Individual.

What changes this made in my Life and how do I follow it?

Once I was back home in my country, I used to start the day with proper housekeeping, as it was said that it should be followed by all levels of the employees in the organisation. And I also heard by one of the staff that 70% of the hazards are eliminated by Good House Keeping. I have always been attentive while driving, crossing roads, climbing stairs, following signs, keeping people out of Line of Fire. ensuring boxes my Books kept on top shelves are secured, eliminating slip trip and fall hazards etc. Sometimes I do educated others about the Classes of fire and extinguishers and how to prevent them, indeed they show an interest in knowing and this will prove beneficial in case of emergency.

Also, I feel that everyone should be aware of Life Saving Rules* where some of this can be followed everywhere in our day-to-day life. Here are some of the Lifesaving Rule that we must follow generally:

Verify isolation and zero energy before work begins

2. Protect yourself against a fall when working at height

3. Follow the rules for working in toxic gas environments

4. Follow safe driving rules

5. Keep yourself and others out of the line of fire

6. Control flammables and ignition sources

Therefore, I feel that it’s important to all the people in all sectors to learn a basic safety principle which can be followed in throughout their journey and staying away from hazards and creating a safe environment everywhere. I would like to hear your views or opinion on this. For more Life Saving rules do search ‘Life Saving Rules’. Have a great day and be safe.

*Safety culture and Lifesaving rules information has been taken from Google.