Holding a grudge will eventually consume you by weakening your body mentally. Have you ever tried shouting and feeling as if your heart is pumping fast and you are feeling trouble breathing?I have experienced it. As per cambridge dictionary, Grudge is a strong feeling of anger and dislike for a person who you feel has treated you badly, especially one that lasts for a long time.
Grudges are usually directed toward people, but a person can hold a grudge against a group or an entity like a company or organization. The word grudge is often followed by the word against and whom or what the grudge is directed toward. For example,
- Boss doubting you on your capabilities while you are giving your best at job.
- A boy has a grudge on his ex for cheating on him with another person.
- A student has a grudge on his teacher for punishing him in front of whole class.
- Family dispute.
Why is it so easy to hold a grudge?
Being hurt by someone, particularly someone you love and trust, can cause anger, sadness and confusion. If you dwell on hurtful events or situations, grudges filled with resentment and hostility can take root. If you allow negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by bitterness or a sense of injustice.
Some people are naturally more forgiving than others. But even if you tend to hold a grudge, almost anyone can learn to be more forgiving.
What are the effects of holding a grudge?
If you struggle with finding forgiveness, you might:
- Bring anger and bitterness into new relationships and experiences.
- Become so wrapped up in the wrong that you can’t enjoy the present.
- Become depressed, irritable or anxious.
- Feel at odds with your spiritual beliefs.
- Lose valuable and enriching connections with others.
My answer to today’s prompt is I don’t have grudge on anyone. Whenever someone treats me bad, I do get hurt, but that happens very rarely. I am a guy to whom everyone likes to be friends with me. If I am good to others then no one will try to hurt your. I believe that our life is designed to put us through challenges and to test us on how we respond and ultimately deciding our fate.
For me its just a moment where someone will eventually target you out of nowhere just to check your reaction, but the best reply is to take it jokingly and being silent. If you react, then they’ll get to know your weak point.
I do read books , motivational videos, gym to relieve my stress and I think this makes me more calm and relaxed throughout the day. And last but not least, ‘Time is the best healer’Aloysius.F
(Some of the contents have been extracted from Mayoclinic.org)